It took me a while to be comfortable with the idea of simply being as I am, and being in tune to myself, over the pressure of achieving things that I honestly have no business in achieving at all. It’s not to say goals and aspirations don’t exist, but you have to become aware that your goal and aspirations shouldn’t be someone else’s. It shouldn't come from your family/friends/fed to you by the media or some random influencer you view on the internet. Where there is mass consumption, it should accompany mass consideration. Filter through all of the inputs you receive on a daily basis. What do YOU actually wish and want to respond to?
When you do something because you ‘think’ you have to, that’s usually not the actual action to take. It’s an action from the mind - which often derives its analysis from past experiences - and you can’t keep taking the same action expecting different outputs without a real switch up. I'm not talking about subconscious or conscious beliefs/programming; annihilating limiting beliefs its only one piece of the puzzle. It's genuinely about tuning into the body as well. Your thoughts can be hazy and full of noise – what's the actual truth through that state? It's key to drop even deeper, even lower, where it's not distracted by noise.
Your gut.
I liken it to a primal, intuitive pulse. It doesn't give you strings of justifications about whether something or not is meant to be, and drag on with tons of reasons. Your body is a genuine indication of your actual state. How many people have you met that can think the most positive things ever, yet within their bodies, they feel anxiety and fear. And they wonder why their lived experience shows them an echo of their fear. You can't hide from your core state, you can't hide from your primal gut feelings.
This is especially true when it comes to decision making. I've been guilty of this before. Whenever you decide that something is right for you because it's 'practical' – it's all the more you should run as far away from that decision as possible. Why? Because 'practical' falls into the territory of mental justification. Your mind is trying so hard to pull you back, as its true core function for safety, into the same familiar zone. You overthink, use logic as a way to convince yourself of what would've otherwise been a leap of faith with a 'yes'. It's been conditioned almost that we reject anything new. If only we took more time to honour what lights us up, rather than being afraid of lack of practicality.
Your body knows. Bypass the mental noise, the thoughts, the constant urge to fix yourself or be 'productive' because you have to. There's so much magic in honouring what's liminal. You know you'll arrive anyway.
Are you acting out of fearful anticipation, bracing or alignment?
